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"sex safety"

Safe sex sounds like limited sex, controlled sex, modified sex. It sounds like one way to have sex, like I'm being asked to have sex in a different, more boring way.

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Safer sex sounds just as oppressive and boring, and as a bonus it sounds like a failure. Oops, it isn't actually safe; it's only safe-ish.

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Sex safety, on the other hand, sounds like a skill. That's empowering. Now I'm not being asked to limit my sex with rules, I'm being offered sexual skills. Sexual skills are actually sexy, which is stunning for a health care strategy.

All About My Vagina : Please call it “sex safety” (March 08, 2006)

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