(12:39 PM)
from a conversation:
I don't think it should be a problem to be perceived visually in a way that you *do* identify with.
- but one of our cultural problems is that our visual identity is so closely tied to our percieved identity
other people percieving you as being in the wrong category is problematic, because it's an issue with their methods of categorization rather than your need (or lack of it) to match your presentation to your self-perception.
(it turned out to be a much-quoted conversation; kb quoted it for a school project on narrative. she came out with significantly more "um"s.)
